Let us start this post off with a certain well-known trans-delusion, and that premise is:
Apparently, at least according to some TeeGeez, the essence of a woman is her vagina and penetrability. This is the mantra of Harry Benjamin Cultists and neovagina essentialists.
Purely by chance I recently found one of these to-be-penetrated-is-to-be-gender-woman essentialists
blogging bragging online about her blatant vagina-essentialist cult-think, by the name of Lori McNeil.
Now Lori had her frakhole installed a few years ago, according to her testimony on her myspace journal. And life, for her, has been perfect, ever since. After all, having a fraksocket is WHAT MAKES HER A GIRL (finally)!
It’s amazing in that moment when it hits you that you are finally a girl. I’ll never forget what it was like to feel and then see the bandages between my legs confirming my womanhood. Be prepared to cry tears of joy.
Lori was not done with Tearz of omg! Joy though.
One of her acquaintances has recently submitted to srs and she too now understands, all the way to the back of her cul de sac fuckslot, exactly WHAT IT MEANS TO BE (a real™) WOMAN (finally!!1)
Over the weekend I heard from a long time friend whose SRS was the week before. She was dilated for the first time last Friday and was blown away by the experience. She describd having tears welling up in her eyes as the packing was being removed, tears of joy at being a woman. After a short pause, she then felt a sensation like none before…a stent had been inserted inside her and had reached full depth.
No notice, just filling the void which had never been there before. That’s the moment it hit her like it does so many of us…like a ton of bricks…OMG, it’s real…I’m a female.
Like, O M G!
At this time I’d like to reiterate something I posted in my “more on transition regret” post.
If you think when you are being wheeled into the operation theatre for srs while listening to, “Girl, you’ll be a woman soon” on your Ipod, that in eight hours you will wake up and finally be female, then you are doing it wrong.
Surgery to your crotch, does nothing to your brain, which is the real place where your gender dysphoria lives.
To be fair, having also undergone this procedure myself, some years before Lori or her Tearful post-o friends did, let me say this:
I understand the gratitude and relief and joy that comes with getting your dangling bits cut away from you for good. I understand the new and profound awakening and awareness of your altered body as soon as you arrive, post-o, at Dilation Station.
So. I am not ignorant of the total relaxation and profound relief that this surgical *correction,* this *adjustment,* can induce in a male to female transwoman (very tearful, I know). But the reason I am mocking Lori and her friends a little bit is because of her neovagina essentialism.
The reality is, gender is Lived Experience. Sex is your penile inversion frakhole (m2t), or your goddess-given, naturally created and grown vagina, (wbw).
(GUESS WHICH ONE YOU HAVE LORI!)
This kind of wanton, self-deluding and frankly grandiose mindfrakkery is why some clueless TeeGeez end up with SRS!regret. At the exact second they realize that having their talleywhacker inverted did not REMOVE their lived male life and replace the entire operating system and lived experience data bank with a FAAB one. And that my friends, is just common sense. Or is it?
Lori and her penpal (and myself) are VERY FORTUNATE that srs made us feel better inside our bodies. No question about that here. No disagreement or invalidation from me. Trust me, I get it. :)
My having empathy and understanding for some shared history with Lori and Co does not diminish my personal irritation at her brazen (neo) vagina essential-ism.
Speaking only for myself, part of Teh Joy and Specialness and Magick of SRS is due to no longer being anatomically doodly! No pecker (ty!) and having no dangling bits (ty!). Being able to caress my own faux-labia immediately brings my attention to my lack of Sex: DUDE.
THIS IS WHAT CREATES THE RELIEF OF DYSPHORIA THAT IS SRS
And also, why this elective medical procedure is SEX reassignment and not GENDER reassignment.
Conflating lived SEX-experience with the lived experience of being gender: woman is a typically transtastic thing to do
It’s been said before in other places and it bears repeating (again!).
Vagina as the essence of a woman is soooo very cliche!
Where do tranz go to get programmed with this crap?